Obsessive worriers. Are you one those people? You know what I’m talking about, the people who always seem to have some paranoid thought on their mind every second. They worry about everything from money, what people think about them, failure, or whether or not the world will end tomorrow. They spend so much time worrying about everything it consumes their daily life. I’m here to tell you today to quit worrying, start living instead.
Excessive worry will drain you emotionally. It can also begin to control your daily life making it less enjoyable. Many people worry about events they have no control over. That is the main reason why I don’t watch the news or much TV. The news is mostly filled with negative events such as homicides, war, or the failing economy. Things that are completely out of your control.
When you worry about such events you need to take a step back and ask yourself the question. How does this event I am worrying about affect me at this moment? When you begin with this question you quickly realize most of the time it doesn’t affect you, or doesn’t have as bad of an impact you originally thought.
I started using this technique a while back to deal with any problems that arise in my life. In the past, I probably would have flipped out and spent days even years worrying myself to death. As I worried about one event, more worries enter my head. Eventually accumulating so many worrying thoughts I didn’t know what to do.
Understand that worry and stress is based on your perception. It’s how you perceive the event to be. A group of people can experience the same negative event but each person will come out with a different perspective. Some may get really overwhelmed by the event and are unable to stop thinking about it. While another group will forget about it and move on.
If you are a worry wart, you need to ask yourself is what I am worrying about reality or perceived reality? I used this question with great effectiveness. 99% of the time my worries do not require immediate attention. Which means I’ve created a crisis in my mind over nothing.
Take for instance when you were a kid. You probably had beliefs you really believed in. Something you were passionate about and truly believed deep down it was the truth. What happened as you got older? You probably looked back and said I couldn’t believe I thought that way back then.
It’s the same with dealing with constant worry. Ask yourself does it affect me now? Is it a real or perceived threat.
Most of the time it is the later. When you realize this you will become less of a worrier. You will begin to spend more time being productive and proactive.
Worrying will not change your situation. Doing something and taking action will.
Steps To Combat Worrying
1. Take a step back and be clear about the situation your worrying about.
Many times when we worry we tend to overreact to a situation. Think it through because it might not be as bad as you thought once you get down to the finer details.
2. Determine what the worst case scenario may be.
Is it really going to be that bad? Many times what we worry ends up not being that bad.
My mother used to worry about everything. Things that she cannot control. She would read the newspaper about a bunch of teens who got into a car accident while on a holiday. Before you know it we were not allowed to go the cabin with our friends because we would supposedly suffer the same fate. These images and other doomsday scenarios played out in her head every night. Instead of having us kids learn, grow and experience life it became her mission to shelter us.
3. Relieve your stress by accepting the worst should your worries become a reality.
Denying it and refusing to believe it is true will not solve your issue. Confronting and accepting the reality of the situation will.
For example if you are going to foreclose on your home just accept it. Remember you can always build yourself back up financially and buy another one down the road.
This happened to my family when we were kids and my father lost his business. He and rest of the family eventually worked their way back up. In the end we bought a better house and the family business flourished.
4. Take action to minimize the damage.
By doing so you will start improving your situation immediately. For instance if you find out the next day the stock market crashed you wouldn’t wait a few months before cutting your loses would you? Of course you wouldn’t. You would probably begin to sell off as much as you can so the financial hit would be lessened.
I hope these tips will help you eliminate worrying. My mother was a constant worrier and she had passed this bad habit on to me. It caused me a great deal of anxiety as an adult. When I began to realized how much it consumed my daily life, I took immediate action to resolve it.
With these little tips I was able to get over my habit of constant worry to live a more happier productive life.
Once again remember to ask yourself are your worries justified and that bad. Most of the time you will realize it’s not.
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Have a great worry free day and I will talk to you soon!